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06/05/2001 Entry: "Young Women and Tired Old Drew"

Over the last several weeks, I'd resolved in my mind to focus more energy on cultivating relationships with women close to my age. I've struggled with how to create opportunities for myself to be around and maybe date women relatively close to my age. In my mind, I've bemoaned the fact that a great number of my significant relationships are with women in their twenties, who can't even hook me up with their friends 'cause their all in their twenties, too.

My mind has been telling me that I must cultivate more strong relationships with folks that can help me meet people who hold potential for romantic relationship with me. Even if this means engaging less with folks who catch my attention in the normal course of going about my days. My heart hurt at the thought of it.

I've been fortunate to bump into a couple of wise souls housed in young humans over the course of the last couple of weeks that have helped me avoid some of the heartache I seemed headed for.

Last Sunday, I became reacquainted with a young woman I met last summer with some friends at the Los Lobos concert at Stern Grove. She was at a going away party for a mutual friend and we got to talking about the environment, accounting for the cost of changes to the environment and depletion of natural resources when figuring the cost of business operations, computers, etc. At some point, I realized that Jessica would be a wonderful person to have nurturing and supporting this side of my life. I took a small action toward creating that.

As I've worked on getting the kids' computers up and running and networked at a new site at work, I've gotten to work with one of the staff from the program a good bit. She's another one those bright, thoughtful, action-oriented, young women who seem to wander so effectively through the social service sector in the Bay Area. Anyway, I've felt such joy and inspiration and celebration in my interactions with her, I've no doubt that the right course for me is to just keep living and loving and celebrating and appreciating and engaging, and the whole romance thing will take care of itself. (Or maybe I'll take care of myself.)